My death day is July 26th.

Hey rebel,

I call July 26th, 2020 my “death day.”

Not because I actually DIED, but my sense of self was shattered beyond repair. 

At 17 years old, I had a falling out with some ex-team members. Things have been festering for months, so I decided to end things. 

They did NOT take it well -- which resulted in my business social media accounts being destroyed, nasty texts and emails sent, and my self esteem torn to shreds.

I reopened old conversations where I was called selfish, a terrible leader, and incompetent. As a perfectionist, I felt like a bad person and a failure. I wasn’t sure if I was gaslit or if this was actually true.

Then it all became clear. A quote from a song (released that December) that really resonated with me was:

“No one teaches you what to do when a good man hurts you and you know you hurt him too.”

We’re so quick to pinpoint a villain in every story when in reality, we are all imperfect shades of gray all on a spectrum (most of the time, there are obvious exceptions).

Sometimes one person isn’t bad, but rather we’re just not a perfect match. And that’s ok. That revelation eliminated my perfectionism and I was mentally reborn as a new woman. 

But there was another crucial step in my mind-body revolution. Read on to hear about it.

Speaking of revolutions…

In our latest IMPACT 10 sprint, Tyler TRULY revolutionized local food businesses with digital solutions…

As someone who grew up with computers, he worked to bridge traditional dining with convenience.

His d’Skills? 

Programming and web app development powered by AI.

Why does he do this? 

Because he believes in the power of local businesses to strengthen communities, create meaningful connections, and offer unforgettable culinary experiences. By empowering these businesses with digital solutions, he’s not just coding apps; he’s continuing an AI-powered revolution 🚀

See Tyler in action and get inspired at dskills.io. 

Let’s circle back…This was my awakening:

The next and most important step was accepting the truth. 

So what if I’m selfish? So what if I’m incompetent? I’m a human trying her best to grow every day and if it means I make mistakes, so be it. 

I stood up for myself, and that was the first step to loving myself. 

Obviously next I needed to overcome the fear of being seen, but being imperfect and not taking things personally (and appreciating myself) opened so so so many doors. 

I hope my story inspires you to introspect.

See ya next week…

Powering down (for now), 

The d’Skills Dispatch Team